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no awareness or thought of the crucial and wonderful role donors can play in helping parents conceive.

Being biologically conceived by the people who raised you is set up as the gold standard with certainty as though donor conception is less than, not preferable, tainted in shame, and scandal. For the bulk of the book, though, biology equals parenthood with no commentary on how damaging this notion is for readers or the community of people engaged in trying to conceive with medical intervention. Finally, some acknowledgement of the grey space comes near the end. This memoir seems to traffic in absolutes. She writes like this in too many places to count throughout the book. On page 163, when asked about who is in the photograph, Shapiro writes "the answer I had always given was no longer true." For Shapiro, a non-biological link erases parenthood. Throughout this book, biology equals parent. More than once, her paternal lineage seems to denote her "credibility" as Jewish in Shapiro's narrative and indeed in her mind. Shapiro barely mentions this and it does not figure again in the text. Only after those hundred pages is there a brief discussion that Jewish ancestry is passed through the mother's line.

She has immediate access to information, many friends and colleagues with which to process news, and yet the first hundred pages of this book are fixated on the trauma of the discovery. While memoir is an inherently self-indulgent genre, I find Shapiro's unwillingness to examine her privilege very troubling.

Shapiro mentions her role as writer again and again as well as her desire to make sense of her life.

I thought this would be an interesting book similar to Carolyn Abraham’s The Juggler’s Children. It is a book about the extraordinary moment we live in-a moment in which science and technology have outpaced not only medical ethics but also the capacities of the human heart to contend with the consequences of what we discover. It is the story of a woman’s urgent quest to unlock the story of her own identity, a story that has been scrupulously hidden from her for more than fifty years, years she had spent writing brilliantly, and compulsively, on themes of identity and family history. Inheritance is a book about secrets-secrets within families, kept out of shame or self-protectiveness secrets we keep from one another in the name of love. She woke up one morning and her entire history-the life she had lived-crumbled beneath her. The author of Hourglass now gives us a new memoir about identity, paternity, and family secrets-a real-time In the spring of 2016, through a genealogy website to which she had whimsically submitted her DNA for analysis, Dani Shapiro received the stunning news that her father was not her biological father.